Can a man, a lover, a friend in this day and age really take a woman's personal freedom and choice away without her knowledge...
I'm not sure if I am hearing right?..I heard a story... Is it really true that in this modern era, the year 2017 that a Woman can be subjected to not only the choices of her Husband, Her Spouse, Her common law partner, who she lives with and does business with etc
But is it really possible that A friend, A lover, an ex lover even or maybe even someone who is only a friend, an associate. Or maybe even it could be that a person who has been stalking for years and has never even had a conversation with this person, but has managed to obtain a lot of personal information through deceptive, fraudulent methods is able to now qualify as having the right to dis-empower any woman he chooses to by claiming to be responsible for a woman that he has no right to. Claiming to be involved personally and even presenting false information and making false statements to that effect.
Honestly I really am at a loss.. surely God who gave us all the right to chose in Genesis in the beginning didn't say except... me. I don't believe anyone has the right to chose for me or to take away my freedom to chose. That is a GOD given right!
Not even a family member, a parent, or some responsible person in a supposed position of authority. But especially not any so called "friend", or well meaning presumed innocent, ignorant, self-serving, opportunist that is just trying to literally take the piss and use another person's suffering as an opportunity to elevate themselves.
The road to Hell is paved with good intentions... Really beware about who you support and what ideaology you adhere to!
Assumptions as they say are the Mother of all F$%&! Ups and I really dislike people who choose to assume, instead of doing their research.
When assuming instead of researching and asking the right questions to check the facts, its a misuse and real waste of all of the FREE resources that are available to us to use in this modern age. Not only that but its not a good use of our mental capabilities, the brains huge potential capacity to analyse properly or our reasoning ability.
So why is it then, that persons chose to continue assuming on a daily basis, assuming they know what you are saying before you have even finished your sentence, assuming that they know what you are about to say, before you say it even~! Assuming that they know the answer already, so they don't even listen or allow you to finish your sentence, before interrupting. Assuming that they know where you are going to, or if they see someone with you assuming that you are involved and even voicing this loudly, without any thought for respect of privacy.
I wonder sometimes if some persons conversations are actually a competition for airtime with a time limit in effect. If they don't buzz in with an answer before a certain time, their argument expires and they lose points!
The worst type of Assumption, something I see everyday, here in Jamaica. The regular daily activity of Assuming Responsibility! Assuming responsibility for things that persons are neither trained, qualified or experienced enough to deal with are commonplace here. Often there is a need to feel useful, to care for or attend to the needs of a "damsel in distress". The culture is still even today for men to take care of women, so when I was driving and stopped at the roadside for assistance it never took long for someone to profess to being a mechanic and arrive on the scene to help! However the issue is even though I am a female driver, I sometimes know more about the mechanical workings of my car than them. That being the case sometimes I would have to politely and even not politely ask them to stop, as the liability and costs of fixing the issue would not be with them but with me. Sometimes when you refuse the help of a willing stranger it can be offensive, but isn't it better to offend than to suffer the consequences and the costs of staying silent and not protecting my rights and the possible accidental damage of my property.
Often this is caused by the fact that persons who are in the responsible positions are not living up to their responsibilities at all. Or else the resources are not being properly managed so that adequate budget can be given to taking care of certain tasks and so they are not afforded the proper materials or attention.
For example, often the road works contractors here are blamed for the poor quality of roads and for the damage that takes place every time it rains. This is caused by contracts being given to companies that hire people and then pay them minimum wage to do the work and still the materials that are necessary to complete the job are not properly provisioned. Regularly this has been known to take place and the money is redistributed to other areas and then road surfaces remain in need of repair or more often not properly repaired.
To attend to this need often citizens, young men in the community mostly, will spend their own money or pool resources and find materials to fix the road themselves in exchange for donations from passing vehicles. This is one of the kindest and nicest ways of illustrating this point as this use of constructive thought, teamwork and initiative is actually demonstrative of the positive side of this assuming responsibility issue. However the persons who are responsible for fixing the road and ensuring the standards of the road surface meet the requirements for Road Safety are not being held responsible. If there is an accident on that same road who is responsible for accepting liability?
So the issue with assuming responsibility isn't only about if the person is in fact capable, or intelligent or able to effectively help provide a solution. The issue is who will be responsible for accepting the responsibility if the issue is not satisfactorily resolved. If the solution does not work as expected or there are other unexpected results that occur, the issue gets worse and the more persons try to fix things, it only exacerbates the problem.
Therefore I suggest more effort be made to change the issues which are systemic, and effect positive developments within the constraints of the system. So that the persons who are responsible are made to own up to that responsibility, to do the work or provide the services they are paid for or be replaced!
*These are my opinions that are non-aligned with any Political, Cultural, Religious group or any other Organisations and not based on any stories, or third-party information, but are from my own personal observations
